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The children at the school in Kipkarren as we were getting ready to play football.  This is their new football field, overlooking the valley, which most of them play on barefoot.  You can see why I love these kids so much.
 

Again I am writing this from Kipkarren, this time sitting in the gazebo right on the beautiful river I spoke of last time.  I was supposed to arrive here on Monday and spend the entire week, but my back went into full spasms right after the Monday morning run with the kids, leaving me incapable of almost anything except lying in bed trying to ignore the pain.  This was very frustrating because I was looking forward to spending the whole week here visiting AIDS patients in their homes and playing games with the kids.  The two days I spent in bed really drove home an important lesson, however, and so, despite the pain, I am thankful for the opportunity to learn.  About six years ago I had an operation on my back to repair a herniated disk between two of my vertebrae in my low back, and since then, though mostly feeling healthy, I know I am never far from the unpredictable episodes of severe back spasms that I have experienced about once per year.  Despite this, or maybe especially due to this, I have put a lot of stake, in my personal value assessment, in what I am able to do physically, but these episodes have served as reminders that this is neither accurate nor healthy.  So as I lay in bed, feeling helpless and useless, I again was reminded of this, but in a more profound way this time, I think due to being isolated and away from comforts of home.  Obviously I was not able to run with the kids during the week or partake in normal games time, but something very important happened during those few days – I was treated exactly the same by the kids and all the staff at the home and training center.  For the first time in my life, I didn’t feel like I had less value because I was somewhat incapacitated physically.  I have been trying to carry that with me this whole week, and will try to keep it with me throughout the remainder of my days on this planet.  I think we each do this in one way or another – we put our whole meaning in who we are as an athlete, father or mother, husband or wife, business person, etc. – and although some of these things may be commendable on their own, none of them is healthy or sustainable as someone’s entire worth.  They all have their ups and downs, and will all ultimately end at some point.  So I am learning what is and is not in my power to control, and how to use my energy accordingly.  If you want my opinion, the only thing worthy of putting our whole value in is God, because He ultimately promises us life beyond Earth and because He spans all things we could possibly find to put our value in on this planet.

 

 

 

The students greeting me at Simit Primary School.  This is following the initial rush of about 200 children with outstretched hands.  This is as close as I will ever come to feeling like a rock star, and I didn’t even do anything to deserve this kind of treatment.

 

 

 

 

 

Outside of all of that, things have been good in Kenya the past week.  I went out on another mission last Friday to the village of Simit, which is in the “hanging valley,” just below the cliff I was standing on in last entry, but still above the Kerio Valley.  We went there at the request of the officer of development for the district, who said that the area was falling apart due to the attitudes of the people and the degradation of the farming land.  I definitely saw evidence of the latter, as the fields and especially the beautiful hills were black from being burned endlessly.  The people had experienced decreasing crop production and severe water supply restriction, which is made worse by late arrival of the still-absent rainy season.  As with most villages I have visited, alcoholism is becoming more prevalent, especially among young people, and the education system is strained.  We visited the primary school, which has roughly 500 students for 8 teachers, and this is where I found out that I was the very first white American to visit this village.  Classes literally came to a halt when we arrived and all the students and teachers came out to observe the strange, pale creature that seemed to be visiting with the head master of the school.  About half the kids were too scared to actually approach me, but the other half swarmed me as soon as I put out my hand to greet them.  We had a nice visit with the head master and representatives from the village, although I am pretty sure I was being appealed to for financial sponsorship of their proposed secondary school.  We then headed back to the center for lunch and then led a meeting with maybe 100 of the village residents, in an effort to get them to work together and save life for future generations in their area.  I personally challenged them to use the understanding that they are the ones who have all the answers to their problems to start moving in the right direction.  I told them that I was very disappointed to see what has happened to their land, but that they are in control of what the land will be like in the future.  My main message to them was that they have an ample supply of their two greatest resources, land and people, but that both need to be nurtured in order to produce the way they were designed – “In the same way that you need to give the land what it needs to be healthy and able to support the crops you want it to grow, you need to cooperate with each other and all foster creativity and healthy habits in your children so they will have everything they need to produce for themselves and your village in the future.  Burning and using chemicals on your land, and cutting down trees on the hills is the same thing as fighting amongst yourselves, and ignoring education and vices such as alcoholism.  When I come back to visit, I really hope to see that you have chosen to cultivate positivity and sustainability in both your land and your people.”  Of course, I had a translator, so I’m sure he phrased it differently for them, but I think they got the overall message.

 

 

 

 
 

 

Some of the children performing a song and dance during “Guardian’s Day” last weekend.  This is the day, once per year, that their former guardians, usually distant relatives or siblings, come to visit the children.  It is one of the favorite days of the year for the children.

 

 

 

 

During my two visits so far to Kipkarren, I have been fortunate to have the opportunity to visit with a number of people living with AIDS, and, as one of the chief issues concerning poverty in Africa, I think it deserves some discussion.  After hearing about 20 stories, I have noticed some commonalities between them all, many of which speaking to its overwhelming presence and persistence here.  Every single story has contained the following: they knew about HIV and AIDS, but didn’t know much about how one could contract it; they suddenly became very ill and weak, but thought it was just a common sickness; they felt on the verge of death before someone took them to be tested; they felt depressed and considered suicide after testing positive (because all they knew about the disease was that it is fatal and has no cure); they were initially shunned by people in their community when they found out; they had no way to get the amount or kinds of food they were told they needed to stay healthy (they survive, I use the word survive intentionally, on basically corn, maybe rice and beans, and if they are lucky they will have milk and eggs available); and that they now feel healthy, thanks to the efforts of the staff at ELI.  Some of them have no idea to this day how they contracted it, others know and wish they would have known that what they were doing could lead to contraction, and a disturbing amount of the women know that they got it from their husbands, who were sleeping with other women and then brining the disease back into their home.  I have found that the society here, much the same as in Central America, is very patriarchal, meaning that the women are essentially around to give birth and take care of everything around the home, and the men are supposed to be working in the shamba (garden or farm) and providing for the family in any other way.  The sad part is that it is accepted that men will not be faithful to their wives, but that women must not be unfaithful to their husbands.  I asked a young man about this and he told me that probably 90% of men are unfaithful in their marriage.  This is not only demeaning to the women, in my opinion, but also very dangerous, as an overwhelming percentage of AIDS cases are contracted this way.  While trying not to insult the culture or individual men, I tell women that it seems quite unfair and irresponsible to me.  Most of them just shrug their shoulders and smile.

 

 

 

 

Kipkarren River, which is the water of life for people in this area.  In the past couple of hours, I have seen children playing and people bathing in it, as well as cows drinking from it.  It is beautiful in so many ways.

 

 

As I go back to Ilula this weekend, I am excited for a number of possible upcoming events.  First, I will be attending an engagement party tomorrow (Saturday), where I am looking forward most to witnessing the traditional negotiation over the number of cows that will be given by the groom’s family to the bride’s family.  This seems a bit strange to me, almost like buying a wife from a mail-order-bride catalog, but they tell me that it is their tradition and is a way of showing respect and thanks from one family to another.  It is kind of beautiful in a way.  After finding out how many cows are normally given – about 12, on average – I ruled myself out of being able to afford a Kenyan bride, much to the dismay of the entire female population in the country, I’m sure.  Fortunately, I will also get to attend the wedding the last weekend I am here, so I will get to witness the “exchanging of the cows” (for those of you who didn’t get my pun, I don’t blame you, and for those of you who did, I deeply apologize for thinking I am funny).  In addition to those events, I am also planning a short trip to Uganda to visit some friends working with the United Nations Development Program in Kampala.  I am so excited for this, as it will give me a chance to see what is being done at that level and learn from the expertise of people much more familiar with the issues and solutions I am trying to get involved in.  Yesterday I received an email from a good friend and supporter in Seattle, saying he wants to try to make it over here to visit me and see the work being done.  I am so excited to see Greg and have his help in analyzing the situation here.  His family is who visited me in Belize, so I think I am going to rename my journey, “Greg and Jeff’s Excellent Adventure” (again, I apologize).

 

 

 

 

Me with some of the students at Simit Primary School.  I walked in their classroom on my way out and their teacher was gone, so we decided to have a little fun.

 

 

It’s hard for me to believe that I am about half way through my time in Ilula already; it seems like just last week I was writing that I couldn’t believe I was half way through my time in Belize.  I guess age does really make time go faster.  Thank you all for your support and attention to what I am doing.  If you have any input or thoughts on what I write about, please leave a comment or send me an email at jbates@eracepoverty.org.  The more input I have, the better I will process and understand everything.  Otherwise, be good to yourselves and those around you, and give some thought to what you put your value in, and how reliable it is.

 

Halfway Already?!

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The children at the school in Kipkarren as we were getting ready to play football.  This is their new football field, overlooking the valley, which most of them play on barefoot.  You can see why I love these kids so much.
 

Again I am writing this from Kipkarren, this time sitting in the gazebo right on the beautiful river I spoke of last time.  I was supposed to arrive here on Monday and spend the entire week, but my back went into full spasms right after the Monday morning run with the kids, leaving me incapable of almost anything except lying in bed trying to ignore the pain.  This was very frustrating because I was looking forward to spending the whole week here visiting AIDS patients in their homes and playing games with the kids.  The two days I spent in bed really drove home an important lesson, however, and so, despite the pain, I am thankful for the opportunity to learn.  About six years ago I had an operation on my back to repair a herniated disk between two of my vertebrae in my low back, and since then, though mostly feeling healthy, I know I am never far from the unpredictable episodes of severe back spasms that I have experienced about once per year.  Despite this, or maybe especially due to this, I have put a lot of stake, in my personal value assessment, in what I am able to do physically, but these episodes have served as reminders that this is neither accurate nor healthy.  So as I lay in bed, feeling helpless and useless, I again was reminded of this, but in a more profound way this time, I think due to being isolated and away from comforts of home.  Obviously I was not able to run with the kids during the week or partake in normal games time, but something very important happened during those few days – I was treated exactly the same by the kids and all the staff at the home and training center.  For the first time in my life, I didn’t feel like I had less value because I was somewhat incapacitated physically.  I have been trying to carry that with me this whole week, and will try to keep it with me throughout the remainder of my days on this planet.  I think we each do this in one way or another – we put our whole meaning in who we are as an athlete, father or mother, husband or wife, business person, etc. – and although some of these things may be commendable on their own, none of them is healthy or sustainable as someone’s entire worth.  They all have their ups and downs, and will all ultimately end at some point.  So I am learning what is and is not in my power to control, and how to use my energy accordingly.  If you want my opinion, the only thing worthy of putting our whole value in is God, because He ultimately promises us life beyond Earth and because He spans all things we could possibly find to put our value in on this planet.

 

 

 

The students greeting me at Simit Primary School.  This is following the initial rush of about 200 children with outstretched hands.  This is as close as I will ever come to feeling like a rock star, and I didn’t even do anything to deserve this kind of treatment.

 

 

 

 

 

Outside of all of that, things have been good in Kenya the past week.  I went out on another mission last Friday to the village of Simit, which is in the “hanging valley,” just below the cliff I was standing on in last entry, but still above the Kerio Valley.  We went there at the request of the officer of development for the district, who said that the area was falling apart due to the attitudes of the people and the degradation of the farming land.  I definitely saw evidence of the latter, as the fields and especially the beautiful hills were black from being burned endlessly.  The people had experienced decreasing crop production and severe water supply restriction, which is made worse by late arrival of the still-absent rainy season.  As with most villages I have visited, alcoholism is becoming more prevalent, especially among young people, and the education system is strained.  We visited the primary school, which has roughly 500 students for 8 teachers, and this is where I found out that I was the very first white American to visit this village.  Classes literally came to a halt when we arrived and all the students and teachers came out to observe the strange, pale creature that seemed to be visiting with the head master of the school.  About half the kids were too scared to actually approach me, but the other half swarmed me as soon as I put out my hand to greet them.  We had a nice visit with the head master and representatives from the village, although I am pretty sure I was being appealed to for financial sponsorship of their proposed secondary school.  We then headed back to the center for lunch and then led a meeting with maybe 100 of the village residents, in an effort to get them to work together and save life for future generations in their area.  I personally challenged them to use the understanding that they are the ones who have all the answers to their problems to start moving in the right direction.  I told them that I was very disappointed to see what has happened to their land, but that they are in control of what the land will be like in the future.  My main message to them was that they have an ample supply of their two greatest resources, land and people, but that both need to be nurtured in order to produce the way they were designed – “In the same way that you need to give the land what it needs to be healthy and able to support the crops you want it to grow, you need to cooperate with each other and all foster creativity and healthy habits in your children so they will have everything they need to produce for themselves and your village in the future.  Burning and using chemicals on your land, and cutting down trees on the hills is the same thing as fighting amongst yourselves, and ignoring education and vices such as alcoholism.  When I come back to visit, I really hope to see that you have chosen to cultivate positivity and sustainability in both your land and your people.”  Of course, I had a translator, so I’m sure he phrased it differently for them, but I think they got the overall message.

 

 

 

 
 

 

Some of the children performing a song and dance during “Guardian’s Day” last weekend.  This is the day, once per year, that their former guardians, usually distant relatives or siblings, come to visit the children.  It is one of the favorite days of the year for the children.

 

 

 

 

During my two visits so far to Kipkarren, I have been fortunate to have the opportunity to visit with a number of people living with AIDS, and, as one of the chief issues concerning poverty in Africa, I think it deserves some discussion.  After hearing about 20 stories, I have noticed some commonalities between them all, many of which speaking to its overwhelming presence and persistence here.  Every single story has contained the following: they knew about HIV and AIDS, but didn’t know much about how one could contract it; they suddenly became very ill and weak, but thought it was just a common sickness; they felt on the verge of death before someone took them to be tested; they felt depressed and considered suicide after testing positive (because all they knew about the disease was that it is fatal and has no cure); they were initially shunned by people in their community when they found out; they had no way to get the amount or kinds of food they were told they needed to stay healthy (they survive, I use the word survive intentionally, on basically corn, maybe rice and beans, and if they are lucky they will have milk and eggs available); and that they now feel healthy, thanks to the efforts of the staff at ELI.  Some of them have no idea to this day how they contracted it, others know and wish they would have known that what they were doing could lead to contraction, and a disturbing amount of the women know that they got it from their husbands, who were sleeping with other women and then brining the disease back into their home.  I have found that the society here, much the same as in Central America, is very patriarchal, meaning that the women are essentially around to give birth and take care of everything around the home, and the men are supposed to be working in the shamba (garden or farm) and providing for the family in any other way.  The sad part is that it is accepted that men will not be faithful to their wives, but that women must not be unfaithful to their husbands.  I asked a young man about this and he told me that probably 90% of men are unfaithful in their marriage.  This is not only demeaning to the women, in my opinion, but also very dangerous, as an overwhelming percentage of AIDS cases are contracted this way.  While trying not to insult the culture or individual men, I tell women that it seems quite unfair and irresponsible to me.  Most of them just shrug their shoulders and smile.

 

 

 

 

Kipkarren River, which is the water of life for people in this area.  In the past couple of hours, I have seen children playing and people bathing in it, as well as cows drinking from it.  It is beautiful in so many ways.

 

 

As I go back to Ilula this weekend, I am excited for a number of possible upcoming events.  First, I will be attending an engagement party tomorrow (Saturday), where I am looking forward most to witnessing the traditional negotiation over the number of cows that will be given by the groom’s family to the bride’s family.  This seems a bit strange to me, almost like buying a wife from a mail-order-bride catalog, but they tell me that it is their tradition and is a way of showing respect and thanks from one family to another.  It is kind of beautiful in a way.  After finding out how many cows are normally given – about 12, on average – I ruled myself out of being able to afford a Kenyan bride, much to the dismay of the entire female population in the country, I’m sure.  Fortunately, I will also get to attend the wedding the last weekend I am here, so I will get to witness the “exchanging of the cows” (for those of you who didn’t get my pun, I don’t blame you, and for those of you who did, I deeply apologize for thinking I am funny).  In addition to those events, I am also planning a short trip to Uganda to visit some friends working with the United Nations Development Program in Kampala.  I am so excited for this, as it will give me a chance to see what is being done at that level and learn from the expertise of people much more familiar with the issues and solutions I am trying to get involved in.  Yesterday I received an email from a good friend and supporter in Seattle, saying he wants to try to make it over here to visit me and see the work being done.  I am so excited to see Greg and have his help in analyzing the situation here.  His family is who visited me in Belize, so I think I am going to rename my journey, “Greg and Jeff’s Excellent Adventure” (again, I apologize).

 

 

 

 

Me with some of the students at Simit Primary School.  I walked in their classroom on my way out and their teacher was gone, so we decided to have a little fun.

 

 

It’s hard for me to believe that I am about half way through my time in Ilula already; it seems like just last week I was writing that I couldn’t believe I was half way through my time in Belize.  I guess age does really make time go faster.  Thank you all for your support and attention to what I am doing.  If you have any input or thoughts on what I write about, please leave a comment or send me an email at jbates@eracepoverty.org.  The more input I have, the better I will process and understand everything.  Otherwise, be good to yourselves and those around you, and give some thought to what you put your value in, and how reliable it is.

 

So This Is Kenya

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The herd of zebras we saw at Lake Bogoria National Reserve, right after leaving the shore of the lake where we watched a troop of baboons hunting flamingos.  I couldn’t believe how big the zebras were, but they were very concerned about us and soon ran away to the safe cover of the acacia trees.

 

While writing this, I am sitting in my luxurious room on the property of the ELI Training Center in Kipkarren, looking out the window at a beautiful river winding through the Kenyan countryside.  I am here for a few days this week to get involved in and learn about their programs, mainly their health clinic, HIV/AIDS outreach, home health care, and sustainable agriculture training school.  Of course, my down time between those programs will be spent at the children’s home and school that are also on the property.  Yesterday evening, after being welcomed here and visiting with everyone involved in the programs I just mentioned, I stopped in at the school and then shared devotions with the children at the home.  They had so many questions for me, mostly pertaining to my marital status, family structure, education level, employment experience, and personal familiarity with Barack Obama.

 

 

 

 

 

 

My attempt to get the kids into organized and evenly spaced lines during the after school training program.  You can see some of the kids trying, and some simply not paying attention.

 

This morning I went out into the community with a couple of the HIV outreach staff to visit some of the people they work with.  This was very interesting for me because I have never even known someone who was infected with HIV, let alone tried to reach out to them and listen to their story while in a foreign culture.  Most of the children at the homed here and in Ilula have lost their parents to AIDS, so I feel this experience was important for me to understand, in a very small way, what they have dealt with in respect to the disease and how it affects not only an individual life, but also the lives of everyone around the infected individual.  I ended up visiting one woman with AIDS and one woman with very aggressive stomach cancer, and had a chance to hear their stories and ask them questions.  Hearing about the suffering each of them has gone through, and is still continually experiencing, was very difficult, but I had to maintain a positive attitude and tone as I listened to them and asked them very tough questions.  They each have children that have had to come to terms with the fact that they will lose their mother to their respective diseases at any time, which is something I don’t think I could handle at their young ages.  The woman with AIDS, who was constantly misdiagnosed with the common flu for eleven years before even being given an HIV test, is now living a healthy life, after being on the verge of death multiple times.  As we sat together in her small mud hut surrounded by swarming flies, she told me she even seriously considered poisoning herself and her children to death to escape the devastating combination of a serious disease and extreme poverty.  Now she lives what she calls a normal life and her children both attend school, which is something she never considered a possibility before becoming involved in the ELI program just three years ago.  The woman with stomach cancer is not fairing so well.  After having her tumor removed in 2003, it has come back and destructively spread to the point of inoperability, leaving her with little to do but suffer the pain.  She walked gingerly out of her hut to greet us, and I was immediately struck by her very thin limbs and extremely swollen stomach. She was visibly in a lot of pain as she told me that she has five children in school, but is too weak to leave her home, so the only time she gets to see them is if they make the journey home.  As you can imagine, sitting with these women and hearing their inconceivable stories was not easy, but there was one encouraging commonality between them: they both find hope and optimism in their faith.  They each told me that God has been gracious to them and has provided for their needs, even when no doctor could or would.  When they told me that, they smiled their only smile of our visit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Emanuel, Victoria, and I enjoying some time together during evening chai.  They are some of the cutest and funniest kids I have ever met, and they just love playing with my hair now that it is no longer braided.

 

 

 

 

The past week has offered anything but the standard daily schedule I wrote about last time.  I have continued running in the mornings with the children and a few men from the community, and I am happy to report that the school children are progressing in their ability to stay organized and focused in the after school training.  They are now able to organize themselves in their lines somewhat quickly and nearly complete the entire warm up in the allotted 45 minutes we have together.  I am very excited to see what we can do after 7 more weeks of practice.  I went out on another mission over the weekend, where we visited the home church and village of one of the recovered alcoholics from the program at the Ilula training center.  It was so nice to see him again and meet his family and friends in his community, and he even brought along one of his former drinking buddies, who decided to put down the bottle and pick up a bible that morning.  Seeing how God can work through people in any situation has been one of the most impressing experiences in Kenya to this point.  The resiliency and the social nature of Kenya people is something I would like to see in more groups of people around the world.  It is quite impressive, and I have been very complimentary of it in an effort to make sure they understand how amazing they are. I also spent a day in Eldoret, the town that I am certain will soon swallow Ilula in its rapid and unyielding expansion.  After being there for just 8 hours, I was so happy to be spending my 10 weeks in Ilula, rather than in the town itself.  Following five years of living in Los Angeles and a short time in New York City, I felt that I would be prepared to handle any busy, crowded city, let alone one with a fraction of the population.  Eldoret proved that arrogant self-assessment to be far from true.  There are something like 800,000 people in a town built for 150,000, and with literally no room for expansion within the configuration of the town.  I was sure, while dodging the hundreds of huge trucks emitting disgusting amounts of toxic black exhaust, that we were going to run over at least one of the thousands of people who were walking, riding bicycles and motorbikes, and pushing their carts full of second-hand U.S. merchandise.  It was dirty and suffocating, and all around unappealing to me.  I am convinced that I was witnessing the result of American-style development without American-grade resources or funding.  There has to be a better way, and it needs to be introduced to these people soon.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Standing on the edge of a cliff right behind the church we visited on Saturday, overlooking the Kerio Valley.  The cliff is at an elevation of roughly 8,500 feet, and about one meter behind me is a drop of 7,000 feet.  I don’t know that I have ever seen such a huge valley.

 

 

 

 

In complete opposition to Eldoret was what I witnessed on Saturday, when I went to Lake Bogoria.  This national park and game reserve is as close as I have seen to my own stereotype of Africa since arriving in the country.  It is a savannah with endless Acacia trees filled with baboons, monkeys, and many species of exotic birds, and also with a monstrous saltwater lake full of thousands of bright pink flamingos.  As if all that weren’t enough to keep me entertained, there are also a number of hot spring geysers surrounding the lake.  The park, which is encased beautifully by flat-top mountains, is also home to such animals as zebras, ostriches, wart hogs, various species of gazelles, buffalo, and snakes, including cobras and mambas (unfortunately I did not see any snakes).  This is the first time I had seen any of these animals in their natural habitat, so I reacted excitedly and whipped out my camera each time I saw one, while Joel, the Kenyan who was driving, sat and twiddled his thumbs.  Sometimes I love playing the tourist role.

 

 

 

 

 

The moon rising over the training center in Ilula.  This is a nightly occurrence that I will never take for granted because it is so beautiful.  My hut is the one tucked away on the far right.

 

 

I realized through the last week that I personally thrive under circumstances that offer a lot of variation and adventure, with some uncertainty day to day.  Especially on this journey, where my goal is to experience as much of the way of life as possible in each place I go, I feel wasteful if I spend a couple weeks doing the same thing each day.  With that said, if I am to do the same thing each day, I am happy that it is spending time with the children at the children’s home.  I don’t know that I could ever grow tired of playing games, sharing meals and devotions, and doing homework with them.  If any of you are having a bad day, no matter how bad it is, get on a flight to Kenya and visit a primary school.  I challenge you to do so and not smile and feel really good about yourself and the world.  Spending this week in Kipkarren, and maybe next week as well, gives me peace that I am gaining a better understanding of life in Kenya.  I also have another mission in the Kario Valley on Friday, guardian’s day at the Ilula children’s home on Saturday, and an engagement party next Saturday.  All of this will offer the variation of exciting experiences that I need to stay focused.  I still feel myself wearing down a little bit as a result of 6 months straight of being away from home in very intense conditions, so I need to find ways to stay focused and actively engaged during the remaining three months.  Africa is such an interesting and diverse place, so I don’t think staying engaged will be a difficult task.  This place has so much to teach me, and I will not allow any of it to escape me.  Thank you for your support and prayers; you all keep me going more than you know, even with just a simple email giving me an update on yourself or checking in on me.  Be good to yourself and those around you, and I hope to hear from you soon.

 

Finding My Stride

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Every time I stand still or sit down, I am covered with kids who want to sit with me, touch my hair, or hold my hand. This was during a break from a game of catch with the American football I brought for them.


I am exhausted! I don’t know if I can keep up with these kids; they just go and go, bless their hearts. This week was a great one, full of excitement and new experiences, obviously. We started both the after school speed and strength training program and the early morning running program in the past few days. Welcoming each day by running along a dusty road with a group of smiling kids and taking in the accompanying African sunrise is something I could really get used to. I hope I can get used to the altitude, as well. The town of Ilula sits at an elevation of over 7,000 feet, approximately 7,000 feet higher than the elevation I have lived at my entire life. As I’m sure all of you know, increased elevation equals decreased oxygen concentration in the atmosphere. I’m not sure of the exact equation in terms of oxygen availability as related to elevation, but I can tell you that my lungs and the rest of my body were feeling the effects of whatever that equation is. We ran about 6 kilometers (a little over 4 miles) and I could not keep up with this group of 12-15 year old boys the last half, as my lungs felt like they were on the verge of exploding. The good news is that I recovered fairly quickly and made it to breakfast in one piece. Also good news is that the human body is an incredible machine in terms of adaption to demands placed on it. I should be able to keep up in another week of consistent running. The initial attempt at the after school training program was also an interesting experience, as I think it was the first introduction of organized training for all of the kids involved. I had designed a dynamic warm-up that should have taken about 5 minutes to get through, leaving us time to do push-up and sit-up tests, and an 800m time trial. It took 15 minutes just to get the group together and in organized lines, followed by another 25 minutes to understand the spacing and timing of a team oriented warm-up. This left us barely enough time to do a push-up test. Oh, did I forget to mention that we were weaving through a similarly disorganized soccer game the whole time? I told the teachers afterwards that the kids may not be interested in organized training, just playing for fun, and that I would hate to ruin their zeal for sports themselves, but was assured over and over that the kids were very excited to learn how to train. It will be a grueling process, but it will be worth it for those of them that want to pursue competitive sports in the future.

About 12 times per day the kids will ask me either to run with them or to set up a race for them. This is a race down the entrance to the home during our nightly cleaning duties, just before dinner. Notice the huge white smile on each one of their faces.

My schedule is a bit more filled and organized now than it was a week ago. I told everyone that I want to find ways to get involved and assist them, especially during the big block of down time I have between breakfast and lunch. Thankfully, everyone said they had plenty for me to do. Here is what my standard weekday looks like now:

 

6am – running with the kids;

6:30am –breakfast with the kids

7:30am –return to my hut to relax and read

9am – work in the garden

10am – help cut vegetables for dinner in the kitchen

11am – assist the training staff in whatever they are doing (groups, landscaping, feeding the animals…)

1pm – lunch with the kids

2pm – return to my hut to relax and read

3:15pm – after school training

4:15pm – chores and play time with the kids

6pm – devotions with the kids

7pm – dinner with the kids

8pm – evening chai and conversation with David and Prescah (my parents here)

 

Obviously this schedule is flexible, but as you can see I am getting a variety of experiences and a lot of opportunities to learn about life here in Kenya. The conversations I have during these activities are invaluable in terms of learning about ways to help change the future for impoverished people in this region. The weekends offer more of the same, but with much more free time to play games with the kids, which it my absolute favorite thing to do. I have taught them how to play four-square and American football, both of which they can’t seem to get enough of, and taught them how to construct a sun dial. They have taught me how to milk a cow and speak limited Kiswahili (I have about 50 phrases and words memorized at this point, thanks to them). I really wish I could describe how great the kids here are, how much fun I have with them, and what an inspiration to me they all are.

My first attempt at milking a cow, with the help of Mary and Jonah, two of the parents here, and a number of the children. As you can tell by the look on my face, it took a lot of concentration.


I have to tell you about an experience l had last night, which is one I am almost certain will never be had again in my life. David and I were having our evening chai and sharing a pleasant conversation, when Prescah stormed into the room and excitedly said something in Kiswahili. Next thing I knew I was running alongside David, with only the understanding that a cow was somehow related to our sudden sprint. I naturally concluded that one of the three dairy cows they have here had escaped its shelter, and it was up to us to corral it. Once I got there and realized the source of the panic, I wished we were there just to round up an escaped cow. We were among the first to arrive on the scene and see that somehow one of the cows had fallen into one of the feeding troughs and was lodged there on its side, which was limiting its ability to breath. It was letting out desperate MOO’s, leaving me covering my ears while scratching my head. How in the world are we supposed to get this giant, terrified, and uncooperative animal out of the trough? While I was still pondering this seemingly impossible task, three of the men on staff had jumped into the stable and were tugging on the cows front legs and exposed ear, to no avail. Within a few minutes, all the children had arrived and were screaming and poking their heads in to get a view of what was causing the madness, which only added to the feeling of panic. Finally someone arrived with a rope, which was tied around the cow’s two rear legs. While a team of about 5 people towed its back legs with the rope, others pulled its front legs and ear, while still others used boards as wedges to hoist the heavy, dead-weight animal out of the trough. It got right side up and freed its back legs, which were still tied together, from the trough, and then stumbled around for a few minutes before excitedly returning to the trough to eat the food it had just nearly lost its life laying on top of. I couldn’t help but admire its resiliency. The men told me that this same situation had happened a couple years prior, and that the cow in the previous instance was not as fortunate – It suffocated. Once they told me that, I realized why they had responded they way they did. Cows are not only expensive and a source of nutrition for the children here, but in Kalenjin (the main tribe in this area) culture, they are prized possessions, the ownership of which families base their wealth upon, so I am happy to report that they cow is alive and well today.

The children love playing American football. They will run routes for hours while I play quarterback. In the back you can see a competitive game of four-square on the basketball court at the children’s home. They also love this game, and you should see how dirty they are after playing just for a few minutes.


 

That just about sums up my week; I suppose it wasn’t a whole lot different than any of yours, but thanks for reading about it anyway. I have about 8 more weeks here, and a whole lot more to do and learn, so staying present is vital. Along the way the past six months, I have fallen into the trap of fantasizing about being back at home and comfortable with my friends and family, but this only leads to sadness and ineffectiveness wherever I am physically. During the past couple weeks, I have felt myself on the verge of that again. I am doing my best to fight it and mentally stay here, which is helped dramatically by my busy schedule, but I would appreciate any prayers you could send my way to help with that. I think as the time for my return becomes nearer and nearer, that battle will become tougher and tougher, even though I am having the time of my life and wouldn’t trade this experience for anything. This is what makes life worth living, right? Have a great week, everyone, and for goodness sakes, if you come across a cow stuck in a feeding trough, get some rope, a couple of boards, and rally everyone within earshot to get it back on its feet.


Kenya Dig It?

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Me with my family in our common area, where we eat all our meals, have devotions, practice dancing and singing, and do homework. See if you can pick me out of the group; I’ll give you a hint – I’m not African and I have braids in my hair. I took them out for a couple days and the kids told me over and over that I looked like George of the Jungle.

Welcome to the land of Obama! I have been here for about a week now and am finally adjusted to the time zone, I hope. I am 11 hours ahead of the Pacific time zone, and 9 ahead of the Central time zone I called home in Belize. It has been an adventurous first week and it looks to be more of the same from here on out. To my surprise and delight, I was picked up at the Eldoret airstrip by my very good friend, Kigen, whom I went to college with and whose father is the director of the Empowering Lives International training center in Ilula, which is on the same property as the children’s home I am interning at. Kigen drove me to my new home, where I met with his family and some of the other ELI staff, and where I also got my first solid meal in a couple days. The next day I was introduced to my new family, consisting of two parents, Mr. and Mrs. David Kosgey, and 26 children between the ages of two and fifteen. At first the kids were understandably a bit shy and timid, even though they have had decent exposure to white people (Mzungus) here, but after our first afternoon of playing together they were so excited to be with me. They all want to touch my hair and skin, look at my watch and bracelets, and hold my hand whenever we go anywhere. In the past week, I have played basketball, volleyball, and football (soccer), and gone running with them. I have also shared nearly every meal with them and participated in nightly devotions and daily chores. Breakfast here consists of a couple slices of plain bread and chai (a delicious weak black tea with milk and sugar), lunch is usually rice and either beans or lentils, and dinner is ugali (basically cooked maize; I would compare it to the plain filling of a tamale) and either cabbage or sakuma wiki (a local leafy green vegetable). Occasionally milk is served with dinner, but otherwise no beverage is ever taken with meals, or really throughout the day. Getting used to this has been a great challenge to me, as I am used to drinking nearly a gallon of water daily and eating a great variety of foods and snacking at will. The kids really are teaching me a lot about responsibility, as well as about a faith that keeps them smiling and dreaming despite very difficult circumstances.



My home for the next ten weeks. It is a delightful little hut with a grass roof. There doesn’t seem to be enough room to do much entertaining, but I do have a comfortable bed, electricity, and a shelf to unpack my clothes and books onto. This is the first time in months I have been able to unpack my bags and call a place my own. I love it!


All of the 91 children in the four connected children’s homes here have neither of their biological parents living, and some of them have even come here from living completely on their own with siblings or distant relatives. That is a situation that is unfathomable for most Americans, but it is unfortunately fairly common in Kenya, and most of the rest of Africa. Where they have come from and what they have been through nearly brings me to tears when I think about it. But where they are now and the direction of their lives, especially in light of their pasts, leaves me with a huge smile on my face and in my heart. They all have visions for their lives now, and they see a realistic path to getting there. Kids have told me they want to be astronauts, teachers, members of parliament, musicians, athletes, and parents just like theirs. There are four sets of parents, each with roughly 24 children to take care of. These people may have the biggest hearts of any people I have ever met. I thought they would act more as caretakers with their children, but as I have seen them interact, I have realized that they are literally mothers and fathers, in the truest sense of words, to these kids. The kids here know no other parents, and they now live in a loving home with about 90 brothers and sisters. For me to explain it in words is essentially impossible, so I will just leave it at that.


Me doing some tilling of the huge garden we have here in preparation for the coming rains. I try to get one or two beds tilled each morning while the kids are at school, and then they help me on Saturdays. Once the rains come we will plant all kinds of vegetables that I hope I will get to eat before I leave.


Outside of playing with the kids and spending time getting to know the numerous staff, I have also already gone on an outreach mission to the Baringo District, particularly the village of Ossen. This place is much more isolated from Western culture and aid than is Ilula, and for many of the people, mainly the younger ones, I was their introduction to Mzungus. Can you believe that? They had never seen one of us in person! I felt like I was in a parade every time I was taken somewhere in a vehicle; kids essentially lined the streets and stared, pointed, waved, and yelled, “Mzungu!” Then as soon as I got out of the vehicle and greeted them in Swahili, they literally ran away and screamed. Some brave ones came forward for the standard Kenyan handshake, but most kept their distance from me for a few minutes. I have learned enough Swahili at this point to say hello and ask them how they are doing, what their names are, and where they are from, and then to give them all the same information about myself. Just as people in Central America did, they laugh at my name and my way of speaking. I was also informed while on this outreach that in Kenyan culture only women braid their hair, so everyone I have met since arriving has been very curious as to why in the world I would braid my hair if I am a man. I just tell them that every man in America braids his hair. The purpose of this outreach was to, well to reach out to alcoholics in villages. You see, alcoholism is a very serious problem in developing areas, and Kenya is no exception. There was a group of alcoholics here at the training center when I first arrived that were just finishing their treatment, and I got to spend some time with them to hear their stories and exchange personal questions with them. I was really touched by their courage and their heart for positive change, not only for themselves, but for others in their villages who have the same struggle. At the outreach meetings, I was twice called upon by Mr. Teimuge, Kigen’s father, to give my testimony in front of hundreds of very attentive Kenyans. In comparison with all of their lives, I felt that my own comfortable life could offer no insight or encouragement, but somehow it did. They were so touched and encouraged that an American would want to leave his home to come get to know them. I was thanked up and down by all the elders of the church and village, and all the others that attended. It was truly one of the most touching experiences of my life. I want to try to convey to you all that no matter where you come from or what path your life has taken, you can be a light to someone else, so please listen to, and share with others whenever you get the opportunity.


Mr. Laban Rono, director of the Ilula children’s home, speaking to the congregation at the church in Ossen. This is one of the groups that I spoke to, with a translator, of course.

This week will be a normal week, if that even exists in my life anymore. I will be working with the staff to set up some sort of standard weekly schedule where I will split my time between playing with the kids, helping in the primary school that is also on the grounds, helping the parents in their daily responsibilities, discussing administration of programs with the staff, and helping prepare and plant the gardens. I also will be starting an early morning running program for the kids who are interested and an afterschool strength and agility training program for those who are serious about pursuing sports in high school. To involve everyone in athletics, I will be setting up an Olympics Day for the last weekend I am here. This will be a fun day of competition in many different events for all the children, which will give them a chance to discover which sports or skills they are good at or enjoy. There is a lot to do while I am here, but I am taking it one day at a time and feeling myself settle in a bit more each day. The feeling of isolation has been a challenge, as I am really the only Mzungu for miles and I again didn’t know a soul when I arrived, since Kigen returned back to his home in Nairobi, but all of the people here have been so welcoming and wonderful to me. The kids are teaching me two or three phrases in Swahili each night at dinner, which is helping me to communicate with them better and making all of us more comfortable with each other. Thank you all for your support and interest in my journey, it means more than you know. Please be good to yourselves and everyone around you, and let your life shine for someone else this week.


As you probably know by now, I am completely obsessed with sunrises and sunsets. These are some of my brothers and sisters as we cleaned up the area around our home before dinner last night. They see this every night, so they think it’s ridiculous that I want to take a photo of it; well, they basically think everything I do and say is ridiculous.

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